Divorce is a life changing event. It’s also an opportunity: to learn more about yourself and grow into the person you were meant to be. My divorce and my post-divorce situation have been one of the most difficult trials I’ve had to go through. But I like to feel that I’ve taken the pieces of me that were broken or damaged before (and during) the divorce and put them back together. But not only that, I’ve added some new pieces.
Since my divorce:
I feel a new self-confidence that I never felt when I was married to the Goblin King. Having every decision you make questioned changes your inner voice. It took some time before I was able to silence the inner critic, but now I’m able to take his advice with a grain of salt and acknowledge when I’m being too hard on myself.
I’m better off financially than I would have been if I’d stayed. My ex and I were never on the same page as far as finances go. I was a saver, and he was a spender. I feel confident now not only that I could survive if I lost or left my job, but also that I’ll be OK when it comes time for me to retire.
I have a better relationship with my children because I’m able to fully be myself with them. They can see my easy smile and are open to long talks. I don’t think that would have been possible if I stayed.
I feel safe. For the first time in the longest period, I feel as though I don’t have to protect myself. Or more that I’m not the only one looking out for me. I’m lucky to have a wonderful husband to share my life with.
But I’ve learned so many thingsabout myself since the divorce. And you can read about them today on DivorcedMoms.com