Finite Disappointment and Infinite Hope

Finite Disappointment and Infinite Hope

Several years back, after many months working on a parenting plan, the Goblin King and I mediated a settlement related to specific holidays and birthdays. For Halloween, Christmas, the children’s birthdays, and our own birthdays, we agreed to specific splits. For Halloween, for instance, we alternate years. For Christmas, we have a set schedule which Read More

The Divorce Whisperer: Have You Become 'That' Girl?

The Divorce Whisperer: Have You Become ‘That’ Girl?

Have you become a divorce mentor?  Not an official one, with a shingle.  I mean unintentionally – did you become someone that it seems that everyone who is contemplating/going through a divorce feels the need to speak to?  Sort of like the Divorce Yoda…”The divorce is strong with this one“.   Or the Divorce Whisperer. Read More

Follow Your Own Path 1

What I’ve Learned: Follow Your Own Path

Deep breath time. I’ve just packed the kids off to school and back to their father’s for a few days. This blog is supposed to be about helping me to work through my issues and to give you some inspiration to keep positive about life. I strive very hard to do that – not only Read More

Coparenting: Splitting Expenses without Losing Your Mind

Coparenting: Splitting Expenses without Losing Your Mind

When our divorce decree allowed for splitting expenses for our children in half, I thought it would be easy. All things being equal, with two kids, half means I pay for one kid and he pays for the other, right? So mid-January I received notification that it was time for our biannual payment for “pizza Read More

I Am NOT a Survivor 2

I Am NOT a Survivor

I am not a survivor. Not in the sense that I’m not still among the living.  I just hate that word. Survivor.   Sounds like I was up against something completely insurmountable that most people never make it through. That I’ve been victimized. I am not a victim. The word “survivor” also comes with an implication Read More

Keeping the Pictures: Am I Holding onto the Past?

Keeping the Pictures: Am I Holding onto the Past?

Amusingly, it appears it was last January that we were doing some clean-up and Hubs asked about why I was keeping photos from my relationship with my ex. It must be the time of year because I was in the basement again this past weekend cleaning out some old boxes (to add new stuff…). While I Read More

#NaBloPoMo I'm a Horrible Mother

I’m a Horrible Mother

I found this in a draft folder, from January of 2015, and thought it might be time to polish it, because it still feels like this sometimes. It’s hard to be a good mother all of the time. But after the divorce, I feel like a horrible mother and like I’m constantly doing it wrong. Read More

3 Things a Resourceful Single Mom Can Do For Extra Cash

3 Things a Resourceful Single Mom Can Do For Extra Cash

Post break-up, there’s a ton of things that you’ll suddenly have full responsibility for, and your cash situation will stretch thinner by the day. If you’re smart, you’ll take that extra time you have while the kids are with your ex to figure out how to make extra money. Sell Your Stuff One thing I Read More

#NaBloPoMo - Childhood Attachments

#NaBloPoMo – Childhood Attachments

Do you have a “thing” from your childhood that you were overly attached to and wanted to pass down to your children? I had two. Both of them from my Great Grandfather who was a soldier in World War I. The first was a medal he received for his service. It was a hard war. Read More

I Got in Trouble...There's a Homework Note

I Got in Trouble…There’s a Homework Note

Last week when I picked up Puck and Flower from school, Puck looked anxious. I asked them what they’d done at school and Puck burst into tears. “I got in trouble. There’s a homework note.” The week prior he’d had a test he was supposed to bring home for signature. He “forgot” to bring it Read More