Bringing Your Emotional Baggage into Your Next Relationship After Divorce 1

Unbacking Baggage Before a New Marriage

When I first remarried, a co-worker of myself and my husband remarked, “your husband must be very patient if he’s willing to take on you and your children.” I found the comment incredibly insulting. Granted, I was a bit of a wreck after my divorce and the car accident but my husband and I have Read More

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Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist 1

Moving Past Narcissistic Abuse and PTSD

“When you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.”  The narcissist in my life started inventing those stories long before I left.  He couldn’t take the blame for anything, so logically, everything was my fault. As much as I like to think that I’m out from underneath the abuse, I still feel it. One Christmas I Read More

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Do My Children Need Therapy? A Divorced Mother's Worries

Do My Children Need Therapy? A Divorced Mother’s Worries

Do my children need therapy? I have to admit, this is something I’ve struggled with.  I’ve had extensive therapy since leaving their father – and it’s helped me a great deal.  I’ve been able to reflect on why I married their father, why I stayed married for almost ten years despite a broken relationship.  Why Read More

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My Destination is No Longer Set by the Way the Wind Blows 1

Coparenting: When Back to School Means Back to Conflict

The problem with negotiating a “one-size fits all” parenting agreement is that it’s impossible to anticipate what types of changes the children are going to experience as they get older.  The after summer transition to a new grade can be particularly trying as both parents try to adapt to new teachers, more homework, different lunches, Read More

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My Destination is No Longer Set by the Way the Wind Blows 1

Our Story: Marriage "After" Divorce

My divorce was long, difficult, and messy.  We’d discussed finalizing the paperwork, but my ex outright refused to pay his half.  “I’m Catholic.  I don’t believe in divorce.” Yeah.  Catholic.  Right. Anyway – everything was done except for the decree.  I didn’t have the piece of paper that said I was completely and wholly apart Read More

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On Losing a Family Member

Preparing Your Kids for the Death of a Pet

When my husband and I were dating, I met his kids well before he “met” mine. He had joint custody of two gorgeous dogs – Montana, a full Rottweiler, and Apollo, a German Shepard Rottweiler mix. Montana was about eight at the time, and Apollo was about eleven. I say “about” because we’re not quite Read More

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Merging Households

Merging Households: 5 Ways to Make Common Financial Goals

Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links. One of the failings of my first marriage was our approach (or rather lack thereof) to managing money. I admit freely that I did not have a mature understanding of budgeting, and my ex, although he was much older than I, had learned to manage money by using his Read More

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Every Day is a Gift 1

Every New Day is a Gift

Those of you who have been reading my blog know that I’ve been in a bad car accident. My leg was broken rather severely. My femur was split in two—I have a big metal rod inside it now that knit it back together. My knee cap was broken into five different pieces. The surgeons strung Read More

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When Should you Teach your Children to be Independent? 1

When Should you Teach your Children to be Independent?

I face a continual struggle with my children’s birth father with regard to parenting techniques.  I work very hard to foster their spirit and independence and self-confidence.  My ex doesn’t understand because that isn’t the way he was raised.  He works hard to ensure the children are dependent on him, in part, I think, because Read More

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I’ll Love You Forever

Over each of my children’s beds is the quote from Robert Munsch’s most popular book: “I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always, As long as I’m living, My baby you’ll be.”   A reminder for each of them.  At the beginning and end of each day. If you’re a parent, chances are you’ve Read More

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