Do My Children Need Therapy? A Divorced Mother's Worries

Do My Children Need Therapy? A Divorced Mother’s Worries

Do my children need therapy? I have to admit, this is something I’ve struggled with.  I’ve had extensive therapy since leaving their father – and it’s helped me a great deal.  I’ve been able to reflect on why I married their father, why I stayed married for almost ten years despite a broken relationship.  Why Read More

When Odd Coincidences Pile Up

Coparenting: When Back to School Means Back to Conflict

The problem with negotiating a “one-size fits all” parenting agreement is that it’s impossible to anticipate what types of changes the children are going to experience as they get older.  The after summer transition to a new grade can be particularly trying as both parents try to adapt to new teachers, more homework, different lunches, Read More

When Odd Coincidences Pile Up

Our Story: Marriage "After" Divorce

My divorce was long, difficult, and messy.  We’d discussed finalizing the paperwork, but my ex outright refused to pay his half.  “I’m Catholic.  I don’t believe in divorce.” Yeah.  Catholic.  Right. Anyway – everything was done except for the decree.  I didn’t have the piece of paper that said I was completely and wholly apart Read More

Life Goal: Not to be Featured on Hoarders

Life Goal: Not to be Featured on Hoarders

My home decluttering has continued.  I’ve gone through my closet and pulled out a ton of stuff I haven’t worn (and don’t intend to).  And I’ve finally started to part with my maternity clothes.  I had quite a collection over three children and nine years.  Some of them had even made their way into my Read More

Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist

Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist

Today I read a Facebook post on the page  “After Narcissist Abuse – There is Light, Life and Love”.  It was a list of the things that narcissists do.  It suggested that “when you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.”  It rang true with me.  But the narcissist in my life started inventing those stories Read More

Getting Your "Sexy" Back after Divorce

Getting Your Sexy Back after Divorce

For most women, the decision to divorce, whether our own decision or someone else’s is the proverbial rock bottom.  Our confidence takes a huge hit.  And the idea that we could ever be seen as desirable to someone else (or desire someone else for that matter) seems impossible. But I can tell you (from experience) Read More

Bringing Your Emotional Baggage into Your Next Relationship After Divorce

Bringing Your Emotional Baggage into Your Next Relationship After Divorce

Have you ever felt like damaged goods after starting a new relationship following divorce? Do friends and family make you feel like you have less to offer a potential new mate? Read more about my experiences with emotional baggage in new relationships at DivorcedMoms.com. Follow Live by Surprise on Twitter, Google+ and Facebook

Merging Households

Merging Households: 5 Ways to Make Common Financial Goals

Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links. One of the failings of my first marriage was our approach (or rather lack thereof) to managing money. I admit freely that I did not have a mature understanding of budgeting, and my ex, although he was much older than I, had learned to manage money by using his Read More