#NaBloPoMo I'm a Horrible Mother

I’m a Horrible Mother

I found this in a draft folder, from January of 2015, and thought it might be time to polish it, because it still feels like this sometimes. It’s hard to be a good mother all of the time. But after the divorce, I feel like a horrible mother and like I’m constantly doing it wrong. Read More

Shared Custody, Pennies And How I Get The Most Out of Spending Time With My Kids

Shared Custody, Pennies And How I Get The Most Out of Spending Time With My Kids

When considering divorce, a major deciding factor is sometimes the amount of time that you get to spend with your children.  After all, you only have approximately eighteen years together (more or less) – and after divorce, you might suddenly find that you’ve reduced your time by half (depending on your custody agreement).  In my Read More

Avoiding a Diagnosis: Providing the Tools to Combat Mental Illness

5 Tips to Manage a Difficult Co-Parent

Marital breakdown typically means that the relationship and your ability to communicate and parent with your soon-to-be-ex is at least partly impaired.  With time, some co-parents are able to put those feelings aside, but there are cases where one parent becomes disengaged, emotionally combative, or starts sabotaging their parenting relationship.  In these relationships, one of Read More

Avoiding a Diagnosis: Providing the Tools to Combat Mental Illness

Co-Parenting and Sick Kids…

So…poor Puck has been feeling poorly since Saturday afternoon.  He’s been mostly OK, taking in a normal amount of fluids, but not eating much, and a low grade fever.  Some minor vomiting.  But as today is a transfer day, I had to let my ex know last night as he’d have to make arrangements for Read More

Letter to My Ex

Letter to My Ex

This week, I was invited by Vicki Shemin, a Collaborative Attorney/Mediator/Therapist and Professor to participate in a survey about my divorce and write a letter to my ex (more info here) for inclusion in a book. If you’re recently divorced – I invite you to stop by and fill out the survey too. Dear Ex: Read More

My New Mission

My New Mission

I had an interesting thought the other night, as I sometime do (this is in between my regular night time discussion with myself about how weird it is that we have a room in all of our homes that we enter with the specific purpose of becoming unconscious for 6-8 hours every night.  Isn’t it Read More

Avoiding a Diagnosis: Providing the Tools to Combat Mental Illness

Co-Parenting with a Bully

I’ve been feeling very frustrated and “stuck” for the last couple of months.  I think it’s the Christmas kerfuffle that did it to me.  I feel like I’m constantly fighting. Let’s be clear – my ex is a bully.  Plain and simple.  He’s very insecure and tries to assert himself in the only way he knows how – Read More