The Grandmother Diaries:  My Kids Are My Life

The Grandmother Diaries: My Kids Are My Life

“I have been reading my 1985-86 journals. It seems all I do is worry about Auntie and the children. I’ve got to stop and start thinking about me.  They have a life of their own and it doesn’t include me.  Once in a while they think about me.  I’m sure I did the same with Read More

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Falling Over Myself – #AAF with Tamara like Camera

Summer is starting to leave us now…the days are getting shorter, the weather is starting to get brisker, it’s about time to pull up our warm socks, put on our scarves and have some pumpkin stew.  And today I had the opportunity to blog with an expert on pumpkin stew – one of my favorite Read More

40 Pieces of Advice for My Children on the Eve of My Fortieth Birthday

40 Pieces of Advice for My Children on the Eve of My Fortieth Birthday

I’m turning forty this week. I’ve decided that I’d like to give my children forty pieces of advice that I’ve absorbed in the past 14,610 days (thank you WolframAlpha). Come over to Sammiches and Psych Meds to see my advice. Follow Live by Surprise on Twitter, Google+, Facebook, Pinterest and Bloglovin

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How Was Your Week? #10Thankful

I was admonished for my first TToT for getting excited and posting too early.  Well…who could blame me.  I was excited to be part of such a fantastic group – AND I joined just before the 100th.  I almost peed my pants as I hit publish. This is my third TToT and I’m much more Read More

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Co-Parenting with a Bully

I’ve been feeling very frustrated and “stuck” for the last couple of months.  I think it’s the Christmas kerfuffle that did it to me.  I feel like I’m constantly fighting. Let’s be clear – my ex is a bully.  Plain and simple.  He’s very insecure and tries to assert himself in the only way he knows how – Read More

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Maybe Christmas Doesn’t Come From a Store

I know that ironically, this is among the First WorldProblems that I described last Friday, however, I’ve had a very difficult time deciding what to get my children for Christmas this year. Typically, we’ve gotten a few smaller presents (books, games and clothes) and taken them to the local arena to see the Monster Trucks.  Read More

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Why I Should Never Have Had Children

OK…so my title is a bit of a misnomer.  I have three beautiful children.  I deal with headaches from the father of two of them regularly.  But I would NEVER, EVER wish them away because I don’t want to deal with them.  All three of them are a spectacular gift.  Two of them from a Read More

Fun and Games: Co-Parenting and Extracurricular Activities

Fun and Games: Co-Parenting and Extracurricular Activities

While our custody schedule has resulted in a lot less headaches since it was implemented, it does mean that I have the children on different days every week.My ex works a blue collar job – and has to do shift work. That means he’s on a rotating shift schedule of 12 hour day and night Read More