Since My Divorce: Learning and Growing

Since My Divorce: Learning and Growing

Divorce is a life changing event. It’s also an opportunity: to learn more about yourself and grow into the person you were meant to be. My divorce and my post-divorce situation have been one of the most difficult trials I’ve had to go through. But I like to feel that I’ve taken the pieces of Read More

How to Deal With a Toxic Ex

How to Deal With a Toxic Ex

Although I work hard to manage my relationship with my ex – it’s made more difficult when he talks smack about me to anyone who will listen – including my children. I know it’s never going to change – me I’ve developed some strategies to deal with it. See my article today over at The Read More

Waiting for the Piano Plane 1

Waiting for the Piano Plane

Although I often wish he was out of the picture, I would never, ever actually take action to remove my ex from my life. I know how much it would hurt the children. But there are days when I get wistful. Days when he’s stretched me to the limit and I have no outlet but Read More

Do My Children Need Therapy? A Divorced Mother's Worries

Do My Children Need Therapy? A Divorced Mother’s Worries

Do my children need therapy? I have to admit, this is something I’ve struggled with.  I’ve had extensive therapy since leaving their father – and it’s helped me a great deal.  I’ve been able to reflect on why I married their father, why I stayed married for almost ten years despite a broken relationship.  Why Read More

Co-Parenting: A New School Year

Co-Parenting: A New School Year

My son is entering Grade 5 now – and with daycare under our belt, I have about 9 years of co-parenting and dealing with the children’s carers. I wrote a bit about it last year.  You’d think by now that I’d have it figured out – but nope. Each year is completely new – and each Read More

A Divorced Mothers Worry: Do My Children Need Therapy?

A Divorced Mothers Worry: Do My Children Need Therapy?

It’s a commonly held belief that all children of divorce need some psychological help. It’s not always true – but as a divorced mom, it is something that I’ve thought about. Read more – see my article at DivorcedMoms.com. Follow Live by Surprise on Twitter, Google+, Facebook, Pinterest and Bloglovin.

Avoiding a Diagnosis: Providing the Tools to Combat Mental Illness

You Don’t Need Glasses to See My Problem

Last week, I found out that Puck had misplaced his glasses.  They’d been missing for about two weeks.   I like to think that a normal co-parenting relationship where both parents have a interest in the kids would have gone like this: Child loses his glasses.  Child comes home and tells the parent who has Read More

It's Time to Reframe - Coparenting without Micromanagement 1

It’s Time to Reframe – Coparenting without Micromanagement

I posted on Facebook a few weeks ago that the Goblin King has suggested that we keep a “food diary” for the children.  Thought I’d take today to explain as I had a few questions about how it came about. Last September Puck had a visit with his pediatrician.  During the course of the visit, Read More

Avoiding a Diagnosis: Providing the Tools to Combat Mental Illness

Who Fills Your Bucket?

A few days ago, Flower’s preschool had a tea in advance of Mother’s Day.  One of the boys there, in Flower’s class, I had just learned was destined to “marry” Flower (according to his mother).  I was a bit surprised.  I was aware that she’s played with this particular little boy – as her father Read More