Coparenting: Splitting Expenses without Losing Your Mind

Coparenting: Splitting Expenses without Losing Your Mind

When our divorce decree allowed for splitting expenses for our children in half, I thought it would be easy. All things being equal, with two kids, half means I pay for one kid and he pays for the other, right? So mid-January I received notification that it was time for our biannual payment for “pizza Read More

Cross Your Fingers (and Maybe Your Toes?)

Cross Your Fingers (and Maybe Your Toes?)

After my Easter post and against my better judgement, I agreed to meet the Goblin King for mediation a few days later than the original date that was offered to us.  That day is today.  I got myself a new t-shirt to wear to the meeting. I’m going to ask you all for your collective positive Read More

Down the Road Again

Down the Road Again

I didn’t write about it here…but at Christmas, the Goblin King and I had another wobble.  Although we have a very specific holiday agreement, it’s not in the court order.  And although I strive wherever possible to ensure that we’re both on the same page well in advance of each of the holidays, the Goblin Read More

My First Day of High School: A Horror Story

The Hollywood Coparent Continuum

Some days, I feel like there’s a divorce continuum – and I’m on the lower end of the spectrum.  On the high end?  Princess Goop and her ex and their conscious uncoupling.  As pretentious as the whole announcement was – I feel a minor jealousy pangs that people like Gwyneth and Chris Martin seem to have Read More

How to Deal With a Toxic Ex

How to Deal With a Toxic Ex

Although I work hard to manage my relationship with my ex – it’s made more difficult when he talks smack about me to anyone who will listen – including my children. I know it’s never going to change – me I’ve developed some strategies to deal with it. See my article today over at The Read More

A Case of the

A Case of the “What Ifs”

I am weary. You know it’s not in my nature to fight. That’s why you thought I was the perfect wife. That’s why you were so surprised when I left. I’ve rarely agreed with you, but with enough pressure, I would generally acquiesce to your demands. I suspect it’s also why you always wait until Read More

Sunday Confession:  Please Release Me

Sunday Confession: Please Release Me

The pressure builds and builds.  I long for release. There are days when the struggle with my ex-husband seems too much. I don’t wish he was dead (exactly), but there are days when I wish he would just disappear from our lives completely. The pragmatic part of me knows that this loss would hurt the Read More

Co-Parenting and Clothing Exchanges - A How NOT to Guide

Co-Parenting and Clothing Exchanges – A How NOT to Guide

Ugggghhh!!!  The Clothes!! Go to Google and type “clothing exchange after divorce”.  You’ll find a number of frustrated parents (both men and women) who haven’t been able to constructively solve this little issue. I’ll admit it.  I’m one of them.  It’s one of those nitpicky things that for way too long, I haven’t quite been Read More

Nonsense from the Goblin King - #NaBloPoMo

Nonsense from the Goblin King

The Goblin King (my ex) is escalating again.  Our agreement with the mediator was that we’d send one e-mail per exchange, detailing any pertinent information regarding the children.  Yesterday, I received three. The third one could have easily been dealt with, but it’s now gotten into the area of bizarre. The first e-mail was: I Read More