Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist 1

Moving Past Narcissistic Abuse and PTSD

“When you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.”  The narcissist in my life started inventing those stories long before I left.  He couldn’t take the blame for anything, so logically, everything was my fault. As much as I like to think that I’m out from underneath the abuse, I still feel it. One Christmas I Read More

Cut to Pieces

Cut to Pieces

His spit hit her cheek as he breathed, “You’re fat. Worthless. I don’t know why I keep you around.” She cringed internally as the last pieces of her self-esteem shattered.  The wounds would never fully heal; even after they found his body. Want Live By Surprise in your inbox?  Click here to join our mailing list or Read More

A Delicate Situation: How Do You Tell a Friend They're in a Relationship with a Jerk 1

A Delicate Situation: How Do You Tell a Friend They’re in a Relationship with a Jerk

My girlfriend is in an abusive relationship.  I’ve tried talking to her.  Admittedly, I haven’t been very supportive.  I’ve seen evidence of the abuse she takes from him.  There are photographs of her bruised and scratched face after a particularly difficult day with him.  But she won’t seek help.  She insists everything is fine.  That Read More