Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist 1

Moving Past Narcissistic Abuse and PTSD

“When you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.”  The narcissist in my life started inventing those stories long before I left.  He couldn’t take the blame for anything, so logically, everything was my fault. As much as I like to think that I’m out from underneath the abuse, I still feel it. One Christmas I Read More

Name Your Fear

Name Your Fear

Conventional wisdom suggests that naming your fears will help you to conquer them.  While I have few remaining vestiges of the mental health trauma I experienced after the accident, I have discovered that I have developed a fear of enclosed spaces.  Specifically – I have a fear of long underwater tunnels.  I discovered this fear, Read More

Why I Should Have Waited to Marry

Codependency and Enabling Behavior Doesn’t End with Divorce

When I was married to my ex, for my own survival, it was sometimes necessary to “bend” the truth. I’m not proud of it – I don’t condone lying in my home and I try to promote honesty in my children. However – sometimes – to avoid an inevitable reaction from my ex and protect Read More

Co-Parenting Communication Issues: Listen to Understand - Not to Respond

Co-Parenting Communication Issues: Listen to Understand – Not to Respond

So…more fun with my exchange e-mail from the Goblin King today. Puck, as you all know by now, has a learning disability.  Recently, he convinced his dad that he was sick so that he didn’t have to do a math test.  (I discovered the problem and he did do the math test).  When I discussed Read More

5 Tips To Cope With High Conflict Co-Parenting 2

5 Tips To Cope With High Conflict Co-Parenting

I know a number of very lucky women who after divorcing or leaving their child’s father, either had him drop off the face of the planet, or who have a wonderful post-divorce relationship with their ex.  Both groups are able to parent their children both with the same goal—ensuring that their children grown and develop Read More

“Why Can’t You Live with Daddy?” and Other Questions with Impossible Answers

Sometimes I wonder if I try a little too hard to keep my children from the conflict between myself and their father.  Our little family was broken for a long time, and it continues to be so.  It’s very difficult to deal with someone who has so many mental health issues in general, let alone Read More