Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist 1

Moving Past Narcissistic Abuse and PTSD

“When you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.”  The narcissist in my life started inventing those stories long before I left.  He couldn’t take the blame for anything, so logically, everything was my fault. As much as I like to think that I’m out from underneath the abuse, I still feel it. One Christmas I Read More

Name Your Fear

Name Your Fear

Conventional wisdom suggests that naming your fears will help you to conquer them.  While I have few remaining vestiges of the mental health trauma I experienced after the accident, I have discovered that I have developed a fear of enclosed spaces.  Specifically – I have a fear of long underwater tunnels.  I discovered this fear, Read More

My First Day of High School: A Horror Story

Codependency and Enabling Behavior Doesn’t End with Divorce

When I was married to my ex, for my own survival, it was sometimes necessary to “bend” the truth. I’m not proud of it – I don’t condone lying in my home and I try to promote honesty in my children. However – sometimes – to avoid an inevitable reaction from my ex and protect Read More

Co-Parenting Communication Issues: Listen to Understand - Not to Respond

Co-Parenting Communication Issues: Listen to Understand – Not to Respond

So…more fun with my exchange e-mail from the Goblin King today. Puck, as you all know by now, has a learning disability.  Recently, he convinced his dad that he was sick so that he didn’t have to do a math test.  (I discovered the problem and he did do the math test).  When I discussed Read More

My First Day of High School: A Horror Story

5 Tips To Cope With High Conflict Co-Parenting

I know a number of very lucky women who after divorcing or leaving their child’s father, either had him drop off the face of the planet, or who have a wonderful post-divorce relationship with their ex.  Both groups are able to parent their children both with the same goal – ensuring that their children grown Read More

“Why Can’t You Live with Daddy?” and Other Questions with Impossible Answers

Sometimes I wonder if I try a little too hard to keep my children from the conflict between myself and their father.  Our little family was broken for a long time, and it continues to be so.  It’s very difficult to deal with someone who has so many mental health issues in general, let alone Read More