The Lowest Point of my Divorce 2

The Lowest Point of my Divorce

My daughter was about three months old, I’d left my ex when I was six months pregnant, nine months prior.  He was at the hospital when she was born and I’d done my best to keep him involved with her, although I was breastfeeding at the time, so it was difficult.  But even with the Read More

Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist 1

Moving Past Narcissistic Abuse and PTSD

“When you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.”  The narcissist in my life started inventing those stories long before I left.  He couldn’t take the blame for anything, so logically, everything was my fault. As much as I like to think that I’m out from underneath the abuse, I still feel it. One Christmas I Read More

Sunday Confession:  Please Release Me

Sunday Confession: Please Release Me

The pressure builds and builds.  I long for release. There are days when the struggle with my ex-husband seems too much. I don’t wish he was dead (exactly), but there are days when I wish he would just disappear from our lives completely. The pragmatic part of me knows that this loss would hurt the Read More

Waiting for the Piano Plane 1

Waiting for the Piano Plane

Although I often wish he was out of the picture, I would never, ever actually take action to remove my ex from my life. I know how much it would hurt the children. But there are days when I get wistful. Days when he’s stretched me to the limit and I have no outlet but Read More

Pulling Teeth: More Adventures in Vacation Planning with the Goblin King

Pulling Teeth: More Adventures in Vacation Planning with the Goblin King

You’ll all recall that about three weeks ago now, I wrote a blog about trying to settle the children’s summer vacation with the Goblin King.  As you all know how cooperative he is, of course that went extremely well and we have the vacation done and settled. Yeah.  Right.  Had you there for a minute, Read More

5 Tips To Cope With High Conflict Co-Parenting 2

5 Tips To Cope With High Conflict Co-Parenting

I know a number of very lucky women who after divorcing or leaving their child’s father, either had him drop off the face of the planet, or who have a wonderful post-divorce relationship with their ex.  Both groups are able to parent their children both with the same goal—ensuring that their children grown and develop Read More

8 Tips to Survive Divorcing a Narcissist 1

8 Tips to Survive Divorcing a Narcissist

Feel like your sanity is on the edge as you leave your narcissist partner? Divorcing someone with a pathological personality disorder can be crazy making. You must guard your emotions and you may need to take some counter-intuitive steps to come out the other side with your dignity intact. With some careful planning and a little Read More

Liar, Liar Part Two - Extended Edition

What To Do When Your Ex Regularly Forgets School Holidays

Less than a  month ago, my ex forgot about a school holiday and didn’t come to pick up the children for his regular access. I texted him, and as I had nothing on for the day, agreed to wait at home until he came to pick them up. He lied, suggested that his car wasn’t working, Read More

Ignorance is not Bliss: How Do You Teach Someone Who Cannot Learn? 1

Ignorance is not Bliss: How Do You Teach Someone Who Cannot Learn?

My eldest son, Puck, has a learning disability. He can learn. And given the right environment, with some accommodation, he actually learns very well. The person who doesn’t learn is his father. He hasn’t learned that negative feedback to a child with learning disabilities just lowers their confidence. He hasn’t learned that he is fairly Read More

Coparenting: Splitting Expenses without Losing Your Mind

Acyrologia: A New Diagnosis for My Ex

My ex and I met when the internet was just starting to become interesting.  When cell phones were as big as shoe boxes and only made phone calls—not texts. So we rarely had the opportunity or need to write to each other.  Sure, he’d give me cards on my birthday and sometimes on our anniversary. Read More