Sunday Confession:  Please Release Me

Sunday Confession: Please Release Me

The pressure builds and builds.  I long for release. There are days when the struggle with my ex-husband seems too much. I don’t wish he was dead (exactly), but there are days when I wish he would just disappear from our lives completely. The pragmatic part of me knows that this loss would hurt the Read More

Waiting for the Piano Plane 1

Waiting for the Piano Plane

Although I often wish he was out of the picture, I would never, ever actually take action to remove my ex from my life. I know how much it would hurt the children. But there are days when I get wistful. Days when he’s stretched me to the limit and I have no outlet but Read More

Pulling Teeth: More Adventures in Vacation Planning with the Goblin King

Pulling Teeth: More Adventures in Vacation Planning with the Goblin King

You’ll all recall that about three weeks ago now, I wrote a blog about trying to settle the children’s summer vacation with the Goblin King.  As you all know how cooperative he is, of course that went extremely well and we have the vacation done and settled. Yeah.  Right.  Had you there for a minute, Read More

When Odd Coincidences Pile Up

The Dreaded IEP Review

The long awaited IEP review for Puck happened yesterday.  For those of you who need some review: Diagnosis: Dysgraphia – Struggling Against my Ex AND the System Nature vs. Nurture: How to combat a predisposition to mental illness when co-parenting with a narcissist Now that you’re caught up, the school called about a week ago Read More

When Odd Coincidences Pile Up

5 Tips To Cope With High Conflict Co-Parenting

I know a number of very lucky women who after divorcing or leaving their child’s father, either had him drop off the face of the planet, or who have a wonderful post-divorce relationship with their ex.  Both groups are able to parent their children both with the same goal – ensuring that their children grown Read More

When Odd Coincidences Pile Up

8 Tips to Survive Divorcing a Narcissist

Feel like your sanity is on the edge as you leave your narcissist partner? No doubt about it – the road ahead is more difficult for you than most entering the family court system. These tips will help to make your journey a little less difficult. Read more on DivorcedMoms.com. Follow Live by Surprise on Twitter, Google+ and Facebook

Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist

Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist

Today I read a Facebook post on the page  “After Narcissist Abuse – There is Light, Life and Love”.  It was a list of the things that narcissists do.  It suggested that “when you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.”  It rang true with me.  But the narcissist in my life started inventing those stories Read More

Liar, Liar Part Two - Extended Edition

What To Do When Your Ex Regularly Forgets School Holidays

Less than a  month ago, my ex forgot about a school holiday and didn’t come to pick up the children for his regular access. I texted him, and as I had nothing on for the day, agreed to wait at home until he came to pick them up. He lied, suggested that his car wasn’t working, Read More

Ignorance is not Bliss: How Do You Teach Someone Who Cannot Learn? 1

Ignorance is not Bliss: How Do You Teach Someone Who Cannot Learn?

My eldest son, Puck, has a learning disability. He can learn. And given the right environment, with some accommodation, he actually learns very well. The person who doesn’t learn is his father. He hasn’t learned that negative feedback to a child with learning disabilities just lowers their confidence. He hasn’t learned that he is fairly Read More

Coparenting: Splitting Expenses without Losing Your Mind

Acyrologia: A New Diagnosis for My Ex

My ex and I met when the internet was just starting to become interesting.  When cell phones were as big as shoe boxes and only made phone calls—not texts. So we rarely had the opportunity or need to write to each other.  Sure, he’d give me cards on my birthday and sometimes on our anniversary. Read More