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What is a “Perfect Marriage”?

On several occasions since my divorce, I’ve met new people (like the kids’ friends’ parents) who have also had the opportunity to meet my ex. If given the opportunity to get to know them a little better, I’m always asked the same question – how did you ever marry that guy? It is, of course, Read More

Am I Good Enough?  What Would My Mother-In-Law Have Thought?

Am I Good Enough? What Would My Mother-In-Law Have Thought?

I’ve written a few times about what an amazing woman my MIL was and how much I would have liked to meet her. I must admit though – I sometimes wonder if she would really have liked me. A friend of mine posted the other day that it’s the drunk family gatherings that remind her Read More

Breaking Down Walls...Was it Just Dumb Luck?

Breaking Down Walls…Was it Just Dumb Luck?

I am at a good place right now. Although I continue to struggle with my ex husband, the kids are good, my marriage is great, I have a job that pays well, I live in a great house, I’m writing, and overall, I’m pretty damn happy. I smile. A lot. And laugh. And have fun. Read More

Why I'm Incredibly Jealous of My Husband's Ex-Wife

Why I’m Incredibly Jealous of My Husband’s Ex-Wife

Remarriage is tough. Especially if both you and your partner are coming from years with different people. My first marriage damaged me. Enough that I even considered giving up on love for good. When Hubs and I came together, in my mind, it was going to be a fling. It turned into so much more. Read More

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Top Eight Things for a Whovian to See in New York City!

Y’all know by now that I am a total Nerd Girl…and one of the biggest fans of Doctor Who there is. And as we’re heading to NYC next week, I thought maybe I’d provide you a list of the top ten things that a Whovian (that’s a big ass Doctor Who fan) should see. The Read More

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The Passive Aggressive Valentine

With the holiday approaching, I ventured out yesterday to pick up Valentine’s cards for Hubs and the kids.  Despite not really appreciating the commercial element of the holiday, I still do that.  I always like the little extra attention as a kid.  The reminder that my parents loved me.   OK…and the chocolate.   I’ve Read More

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Seven Ways I Knew He Was "The One"

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know that I have learned the hard way that there are some relationships that are just…wrong.  Thankfully though, I’ve also discovered that there are also relationships that are just…right. Looking back, I know there were signs in my first relationship.  Signs that I clearly ignored. Read More

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Our Story: Marriage "After" Divorce

My divorce was long, difficult, and messy.  We’d discussed finalizing the paperwork, but my ex outright refused to pay his half.  “I’m Catholic.  I don’t believe in divorce.” Yeah.  Catholic.  Right. Anyway – everything was done except for the decree.  I didn’t have the piece of paper that said I was completely and wholly apart Read More