#1000Speak - Listen to your Children with Compassion


It’s such a simple word.

An anagram for silent. Which you should be while you’re listening.

But listening isn’t the same as hearing.

It’s not the same at all.

Listening, active listening, involves actually taking the time to digest what the other person is saying. It takes time. And sometimes, it involves compassion.

I find that as my children are getting older, it takes a lot more effort to listen to them. To understand what they’re saying. Minecraft, Pokemon, Angry Birds – things foreign to me. Things that I truly don’t really have an interest in.

But in order to have a real relationship with my children, I have to take the time to listen to them. To understand what zombie pigmen are. To walk around their world and see the “house” that they build. To get how many points this card or that one is worth. To see that slingshots involve angles and math and logical reasoning – and it’s all good.

Sometimes I just have to take that time to sit and listen. And maybe not understand. But actively listen. And ask questions. And be interested. And compassionate. When they lose a game or a card.

Even if it’s just not my thing.

So I listen. Because I’m lucky enough to have them speaking to me. And I hope that we never, ever get to the place where they think that isn’t important. Because it is.

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  1. I can so relate to this. My oldest is 19 years old and we have the best conversations, and you’re right, it’s all about listening and hearing (I admit I’m not always so great at hearing). But my 12 year old shares with me his tales of World of War Craft…or whatever it’s called, and when I do hear what he’s telling me, I think, “What kind of a mother let’s her kid play games like that?” lol We’re past the Pokemon days and thank goodness! I never did get the points and such.

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      I had a similar though the other day as my daughter was throwing “villagers” at the “zombies” for food in Minecraft. Sigh. Oh well. Thanks for stopping in Sandra!

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