Recipe for a New You After Divorce

I refer to the period between my separation and divorce as my “cocooning” period.  I hibernated, lost a ton of weight, and didn’t take extremely good care of myself. For the better part of a year, I licked my wounds.  But when I emerged from my cocoon, I’d done a great deal of introspection – and had a better understanding of myself.  When I was ready to let go of anger, regret and grief, I started on a new path that ultimately helped me to rediscover who “I” was – beyond the “we” that I became when I got married.

I discuss these feelings and my advice for the newly divorced today on Lisa Thomson’s website:  A Girl’s Guide to Leaving a Marriage.

Stop back again tomorrow to find out more about Lisa and her book when she guest posts at Live by Surprise!

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  1. I was the same way when I got divorced. It took me awhile too. I think I came out better for it. I learned who I and what I got myself in the situation in the first place.

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      It takes a very long time for those wounds to heal – because damages on the inside can only be salved by yourself. Thanks Rena.

  2. So happy you came back around to YOU! LOVE the imagery in this post…and…we are so connected, Liv… Of all the words to use in a blog post, we both used “cocoon” in today’s writing… Looking forward to reading the article over at Lisa’s site! <3

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      That’s amazing Annah! Watched your video the other day but didn’t get a chance to comment. I love that your hair is naturally blonde…but that pic…wow.

  3. Wish I could lose a bunch of weight through introspection. Still, I think I’ve done alright at thinking about who I am, and who I want to be. Guess it’s one of those catalyst times of life.

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      It’s all about getting your head in the right space. You’re almost there. What a sparkly butterfly you will be.

  4. Hi Liv, Thanks again for sharing your wisdom over at my blog. It has been so well received and will continue to be! I’m looking forward to tomorrow and meeting some of your regular readers here at Live By Surprise 🙂

  5. Rediscovering ‘I’ is a great exercise irrespective of which stage of life you are in!
    I couldn’t see the link for your article on Lisa’s website though!

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      Thanks Roshni – I’ve fixed it. I don’t know what happened to it! I know it was there this morning!

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