It’s been just over two years since Puck was diagnosed with Dysgraphia. It’s been a huge learning curve for me – I’ve had to figure out neuropsychological exams, IEP meetings and resource teachers. But what I needed the most was someone to tell me that it’s OK. It’s OK to feel bewildered by the whole process. It’s OK to feel like you’re pitted against the school in a battle that will determine how your child will ultimately learn. Because that’s the way it is sometimes.
However, it’s equally important to get over that feeling and realize that you’re not the only person who has your child’s best interests at heart. Your child’s teacher, the resource team at the school – they’re all rooting for him. They want to see him succeed as much as you do. It’s their job to care. And once you let go of the “war” mentality – you can both get on with the business of teaching your child how to learn. CLICK THROUGH HERE – I’m on UrbanMommies today with some suggestions to help you do that.
PS – Meghan O’Flynn (aka MegSanity) has released her new psychological thriller today. Jump over to Amazon to check it out – I haven’t read it yet, but I’m told it’s amazing. It’s already waiting on my Kindle. Review and (maybe if I can convince her) interview with the author to follow.
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My son was diagnosed with dyspraxia. His teachers could never work with him the way he needed. I have been homeschooling him for the past two years and its been wonderful for him. 🙂
I’m glad that you’ve found a way to help him to learn. I really believe that as a parent it’s our job to figure out what works best and try to make it happen.
In my daughter’s case, her multiple diagnoses made me decide on home school. In the regular schools, they could have dealt with one or two of her conditions, but not with all of them. She’s in college now, tutoring others in organic chemistry, when i was told by the school authorities she’d be lucky to live in a group home one day.
The school people do care, but sometimes they are overworked, overwhelmed, and so tuned in to what the textbook says is possible in certain cases that it might be best to go a different way.
That’s very true. I’ve been lucky for the most part to have very understanding and patient advocates at my child’s school. Not everyone experiences it that way. I’m glad you and your daughter were able to get past it.
Will head over to read the article (you sure do get around!) but wanted to leave a message here. My daughter had some learning challenges, a condition that went undiagnosed for seven years. So much of what I read online by others did make it feel like I should be in a “war” with the school, a sort of “us against them.”
Ultimately, what I discovered, is the same thing you speak about here, that the staff all wanted her to be successful and they utilized all of their knowledge and skills to help her be so.
I’m so happy you’ve had this same experience AND that you are sharing it with other parents. It’s such a vital message. Thanks for being that advocate. <3
I didn’t initially have that experience, but I thin it was as much my stubbornness, the issues with my ex and a teacher who meant well…but didn’t understand. I’m glad I’ve been able to move past it – and that you had a similar epiphany.