Divorcing? Look for the Right Kind of Advice

Divorce is never easy.  You’re talking about some very strong emotions.  You might be the leaver—you might be the person who was left. Whether you had to make the decision or had the decision made for you—it’s a very difficult time. You suddenly have to come to terms with the fact that your marriage, as it was, no longer exists.

As much mocking was made of Gwynneth Paltrow and Chris Martin and their decision to “consciously uncouple”, there is some sense in taking the sting out of the process.  But you can get through it with your integrity and self-respect in tact.

I thought as a follow-up, I’d let you know where you can go to find some good advice.  Clearly, I’m a big fan of DivorcedMoms.com (and you’ve already been there), but you can also get fantastic advice from:

I do realize that most (if not all) of these resources are written for women. But I would argue that the advice that these women provide is just as important for men. Some of these ladies have moved on from their own divorce to become counsellors and wellness coaches. They’ve written books. They contribute regularly to HuffPost Divorce and DivorcedMoms and other divorce sites.  All with an aim of helping people to manage their divorce and get through the other side in one piece.  And they’re all very down to earth and “available” on social media.

[tweetthis]You need to come out of your divorce being able to look yourself in the mirror. [/tweetthis]

I’m also a huge fan of the ReapeRickett Law Firm’s Divorce Digest.  I can’t say I’ve come across a ton of lawyer blogs I read regularly—but I really enjoy Jim Reape’s ongoing dialogue about simplifying divorce. If you haven’t seen his interview about the “Divorce Hotel”, you should.

If you’re just starting – or even in the middle of the process, keep in mind—you need to come out of your divorce being able to look yourself in the mirror. Not just for your sake—but for your children’s as well. Seek good advice. And take it.

This post originally appeared on Live by Surprise in July, 2014. It has been updated.


  1. Great resource Liv! You’ve come out of it with some scars, but you’ve healed nicely! I always knew you would.

  2. Divorced is really a tough decision. I think women should always keep in mind that everything happens for good. So, it is better to engage in self motivating and self-improving activities.

  3. This is excellent. SO many people need supportive guides and resources during such a difficult time. SO glad you republished this one, Liv.

  4. Thank you so much for the lovely mention, Liv! What a great idea to put all these resources together. A nice way to start the New Year and I’m honored to be in such great company.

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