I was ten months pregnant and as big as a whale. It was so hot. You were having soccer games inside my belly. I think the other team was winning. I had heartburn and couldn’t sleep, and was desperately trying to get your room ready “in time.” Who knew I’dContinue Reading
My daughter was about three months old, I’d left my ex when I was six months pregnant, nine months prior. He was at the hospital when she was born and I’d done my best to keep him involved with her, although I was breastfeeding at the time, so it wasContinue Reading
Divorce is a life changing event. It’s also an opportunity: to learn more about yourself and grow into the person you were meant to be. My divorce and my post-divorce situation have been one of the most difficult trials I’ve had to go through. But I like to feel thatContinue Reading
The one thing about being a working mother is—no matter how hard you try to leave the house without some bit of something on your clothing, you can’t. It must be some weird physics thing—there’s like a vortex or something from the moment you put on new clean clothes. Oh,Continue Reading
I am not a survivor. Not in the sense that I’m not still among the living. I just hate that word. Survivor. Sounds like I was up against something completely insurmountable that most people never make it through. That I’ve been victimized. I am not a victim. The word “survivor”Continue Reading
Last week when I picked up Puck and Flower from school, Puck looked anxious. I asked them what they’d done at school and Puck burst into tears. “I got in trouble. There’s a homework note.” The week prior he’d had a test he was supposed to bring home for signature.Continue Reading
When I was first married at 21, every party – wedding, shower – even funeral, I was always asked the same question: When are you guys going to have children? It seems like people think that when you get married you give up all rights to keep your reproductive activities private.Continue Reading
Ugggghhh!!! The Clothes!! Go to Google and type “clothing exchange after divorce”. You’ll find a number of frustrated parents (both men and women) who haven’t been able to constructively solve this little issue. I’ll admit it. I’m one of them. It’s one of those nitpicky things that for way tooContinue Reading
Do my children need therapy? I have to admit, this is something I’ve struggled with. I’ve had extensive therapy since leaving their father – and it’s helped me a great deal. I’ve been able to reflect on why I married their father, why I stayed married for almost ten yearsContinue Reading
Given the issues in my first marriage with money (and my ex’s continuing issues managing his), I’ve been trying teach my children how to manage money with an allowance. We’ve come across some obstacles. The children seem to think that a “bank card” means an endless stream of magically replenishing money.Continue Reading
