I was ten months pregnant and as big as a whale. It was so hot. You were having soccer games inside my belly. I think the other team was winning. I had heartburn and couldn’t sleep, and was desperately trying to get your room ready “in time.” Who knew I’d have a whole extra ten Read More
Tag: children
The Lowest Point of my Divorce
My daughter was about three months old, I’d left my ex when I was six months pregnant, nine months prior. He was at the hospital when she was born and I’d done my best to keep him involved with her, although I was breastfeeding at the time, so it was difficult. But even with the Read More
Since My Divorce: Learning and Growing
Divorce is a life changing event. It’s also an opportunity: to learn more about yourself and grow into the person you were meant to be. My divorce and my post-divorce situation have been one of the most difficult trials I’ve had to go through. But I like to feel that I’ve taken the pieces of Read More
Business Attire for the Working Mom
The one thing about being a working mother is—no matter how hard you try to leave the house without some bit of something on your clothing, you can’t. It must be some weird physics thing—there’s like a vortex or something from the moment you put on new clean clothes. Oh, you can think you’ve left Read More
I Am NOT a Survivor
I am not a survivor. Not in the sense that I’m not still among the living. I just hate that word. Survivor. Sounds like I was up against something completely insurmountable that most people never make it through. That I’ve been victimized. I am not a victim. The word “survivor” also comes with an implication Read More
I Got in Trouble…There’s a Homework Note
Last week when I picked up Puck and Flower from school, Puck looked anxious. I asked them what they’d done at school and Puck burst into tears. “I got in trouble. There’s a homework note.” The week prior he’d had a test he was supposed to bring home for signature. He “forgot” to bring it Read More
Newlyweds, Children and Reproductive Privacy
When I was first married at 21, every party – wedding, shower – even funeral, I was always asked the same question: When are you guys going to have children? It seems like people think that when you get married you give up all rights to keep your reproductive activities private. What was your most creative Read More
Co-Parenting and Clothing Exchanges – A How NOT to Guide
Ugggghhh!!! The Clothes!! Go to Google and type “clothing exchange after divorce”. You’ll find a number of frustrated parents (both men and women) who haven’t been able to constructively solve this little issue. I’ll admit it. I’m one of them. It’s one of those nitpicky things that for way too long, I haven’t quite been Read More
Do My Children Need Therapy? A Divorced Mother’s Worries
Do my children need therapy? I have to admit, this is something I’ve struggled with. I’ve had extensive therapy since leaving their father – and it’s helped me a great deal. I’ve been able to reflect on why I married their father, why I stayed married for almost ten years despite a broken relationship. Why Read More
Allowance: How To Teach Your Children To Save Their Money
Given the issues in my first marriage with money (and my ex’s continuing issues managing his), I’ve been trying teach my children how to manage money with an allowance. We’ve come across some obstacles. The children seem to think that a “bank card” means an endless stream of magically replenishing money. They don’t equate it with Read More