Deep breath time. I’ve just packed the kids off to school and back to their father’s for a few days. This blog is supposed to be about helping me to work through my issues and to give you some inspiration to keep positive about life. I strive very hard to do that – not only Read More
Tag: custody
Coparenting with a Bully
I’ve been feeling very frustrated and “stuck” for the last couple of months. I think it’s the Christmas kerfuffle that did it to me. I feel like I’m constantly fighting. Let’s be clear—my ex is a bully. Plain and simple. He’s very insecure and tries to assert himself in the only way he knows how—by making everything a power struggle. Read More
Halloween: My Ex Is Into Tricks, Not Treats!
Your custody schedule probably contemplated all of the big holidays – but what about the small ones? Today I’m over at DivorcedMoms talking about my issues with scheduling Hallowe’en with the Goblin King! Image Credit: (Edited) “Halloween In Blue” by Idea go / freedigitalphotos.net Follow Live by Surprise on Twitter, Google+, Facebook, Pinterest and Bloglovin Live by SurpriseWant Live By Surprise Read More
Fun and Games: Co-Parenting and Extracurricular Activities
While our custody schedule has resulted in a lot less headaches since it was implemented, it does mean that I have the children on different days every week.My ex works a blue collar job – and has to do shift work. That means he’s on a rotating shift schedule of 12 hour day and night Read More
Liar, Liar: More Tales About Co-Parenting with a Narcissist
Sometimes, it’s just easier to play into a narcissist’s lies. I’m guilty of it on more than one occasion. If I was dealing with a “normal” co-parent (and by that, I mean someone who had all the marbles in the right place), we could have a free exchange of information about the children, their lives, Read More
Why Parenting Coordination Didn’t Work for Me
If you couldn’t make the partnership work before the divorce, chances are you an your ex will have irreconcilable differences in your co-parenting styles after divorce as well. Some people have it easier than others. If both parents are willing to put their differences aside for the sake of the children, you may be able to Read More
Diagnosis: Dysgraphia – Struggling Against my Ex AND the System
My son was experiencing some difficulties learning to read. He had been in the same day care since age one. When I left my ex he was two and a half. My ex worked 12 hours shifts, and to avoid conflict during our divorce, I gave in to his request to take my son out Read More