Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist 1

Moving Past Narcissistic Abuse and PTSD

“When you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.”  The narcissist in my life started inventing those stories long before I left.  He couldn’t take the blame for anything, so logically, everything was my fault. As much as I like to think that I’m out from underneath the abuse, I still feel it. One Christmas I Read More

4 Steps to Deal with Overwhelming Stress

4 Steps to Deal with Overwhelming Stress

You know that you’re getting over-stressed when your four-year-old grabs you by the face and tells you that you need to breathe.I’m totally vague-blogging here…but there have been some “surprises” that have come up at home this week and I’m feeling a little overwhelmed.  At one particularly stressed moment, little Bae took my face in Read More

I Refused to Say I Love You Because I Didn't Mean It

I Refused to Say I Love You Because I Didn’t Mean It

The process of falling in (or out) of love with someone can be very complicated. The movies make it all about that one moment where two people’s eyes meet across a room and there’s an instant connection. I’ve found that in practice, this is rarely true—and it certainly never has been in my case. I Read More

Business Attire for the Working Mom 1

Business Attire for the Working Mom

The one thing about being a working mother is—no matter how hard you try to leave the house without some bit of something on your clothing, you can’t. It must be some weird physics thing—there’s like a vortex or something from the moment you put on new clean clothes. Oh, you can think you’ve left Read More

Early Education: A Short Fiction

Back to School, An Early Education: A Short Fiction

Once she got to the campus, she weaved her way towards the building through a mixed maze of large, gorgeous columned edifices, bland seventies constructions and post-modern behemoths. It was still early morning. As she reached her destination, the sun was peaking out just over the building. The late summer humidity hung in the air Read More

Finite Disappointment and Infinite Hope

Finite Disappointment and Infinite Hope

Several years back, after many months working on a parenting plan, the Goblin King and I mediated a settlement related to specific holidays and birthdays. For Halloween, Christmas, the children’s birthdays, and our own birthdays, we agreed to specific splits. For Halloween, for instance, we alternate years. For Christmas, we have a set schedule which Read More

The Divorce Whisperer: Have You Become 'That' Girl?

The Divorce Whisperer: Have You Become ‘That’ Girl?

Have you become a divorce mentor?  Not an official one, with a shingle.  I mean unintentionally – did you become someone that it seems that everyone who is contemplating/going through a divorce feels the need to speak to?  Sort of like the Divorce Yoda…”The divorce is strong with this one“.   Or the Divorce Whisperer. Read More

Follow Your Own Path 1

What I’ve Learned: Follow Your Own Path

Deep breath time. I’ve just packed the kids off to school and back to their father’s for a few days. This blog is supposed to be about helping me to work through my issues and to give you some inspiration to keep positive about life. I strive very hard to do that – not only Read More