Although I often wish he was out of the picture, I would never, ever actually take action to remove my ex from my life. I know how much it would hurt the children. But there are days when I get wistful. Days when he’s stretched me to the limit andContinue Reading
Ugggghhh!!! The Clothes!! Go to Google and type “clothing exchange after divorce”. You’ll find a number of frustrated parents (both men and women) who haven’t been able to constructively solve this little issue. I’ll admit it. I’m one of them. It’s one of those nitpicky things that for way tooContinue Reading
Do my children need therapy? I have to admit, this is something I’ve struggled with. I’ve had extensive therapy since leaving their father – and it’s helped me a great deal. I’ve been able to reflect on why I married their father, why I stayed married for almost ten yearsContinue Reading
I’ve never worked well with others. My mother would tell me every time she had a school conference that it was a skill I needed to work on. I did. But I don’t think I ever mastered it. I’ve always been more of a leader than a follower. I’m justContinue Reading
Today’s Blogher prompt, in honor of Black Friday, is: What’s the best purchase you’ve ever made? The answer is my attorney’s bill. I was very lucky to score a private divorce lawyer who was actually concerned about me and my children. It cost more than anything I’ve ever paid forContinue Reading
The Goblin King (my ex) is escalating again. Our agreement with the mediator was that we’d send one e-mail per exchange, detailing any pertinent information regarding the children. Yesterday, I received three. The third one could have easily been dealt with, but it’s now gotten into the area of bizarre.Continue Reading
When considering divorce, a major deciding factor is sometimes the amount of time that you get to spend with your children. After all, you only have approximately eighteen years together (more or less) – and after divorce, you might suddenly find that you’ve reduced your time by half (depending onContinue Reading
I’ve been struggling to find some inspiration for this month’s #1000Speak topic – Love. I think a part of my problem is that I just can’t separate “compassion” from “love”. The two are inexorably intertwined. When I think about compassion, two people come to mind: The Dalai Lama has spentContinue Reading
I don’t like confrontation. I never have. I would prefer to roll into a ball with my hands over my ears than be yelled at. I withdraw. Although I’ve taken courses in management, I’d rather continue to be a “cog”, because I detest confrontation. I know it’s a weakness. Overall,Continue Reading
I am at a good place right now. Although I continue to struggle with my ex husband, the kids are good, my marriage is great, I have a job that pays well, I live in a great house, I’m writing, and overall, I’m pretty damn happy. I smile. A lot.Continue Reading
