My confidence was in the toilet when I divorced. I’d barely dipped my feet into the water before I married my first husband, and after ten years, I was suddenly cast back into the dating pool. The first year was difficult. I was pregnant for the first three months, andContinue Reading
I’ve found over the past several years of blogging that there are a number of women online who speak about their divorces without hesitation. Some of them had a real bad time, and writing about it is their therapy. Some share their experiences in the hopes that they can helpContinue Reading
Marriage advice will usually tell you that “marriage is hard work”—and with my first marriage, I certainly found that to be true. Keeping up with my husband’s demands were exhausting. Trying to be the wife he felt I should be was a lot of work, and I’m sure that heContinue Reading
I really try very hard not to be an ogre about things. There are times when the Goblin King really gives me no other choice. But for the most part, I do try to be reasonable and think about the children’s best interests. Our custody arrangement is structured so thatContinue Reading
Divorce is a life changing event. It’s also an opportunity: to learn more about yourself and grow into the person you were meant to be. My divorce and my post-divorce situation have been one of the most difficult trials I’ve had to go through. But I like to feel thatContinue Reading
When I first remarried, a co-worker of myself and my husband remarked, “your husband must be very patient if he’s willing to take on you and your children.” I found the comment incredibly insulting. Granted, I was a bit of a wreck after my divorce and the car accident butContinue Reading
I know I’m not the only one who feels like I’m failing in the popular parent contest. My ex constantly takes the kids to theme parks, buys them cool toys, and in general, lines himself up for parent of the year by bribing the judges. Do you ever feel likeContinue Reading
“When you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.” The narcissist in my life started inventing those stories long before I left. He couldn’t take the blame for anything, so logically, everything was my fault. As much as I like to think that I’m out from underneath the abuse, I stillContinue Reading
Have you become a divorce mentor? Not an official one, with a shingle. I mean unintentionally – did you become someone that it seems that everyone who is contemplating/going through a divorce feels the need to speak to? Not the Divorce Whisperer, but sort of like the Divorce Yoda…”The divorceContinue Reading
Deep breath time. I’ve just packed the kids off to school and back to their father’s for a few days. This blog is supposed to be about helping me to work through my issues and to give you some inspiration to keep positive about life. I strive very hard toContinue Reading
