Coparenting: Splitting Expenses without Losing Your Mind

Coparenting: Splitting Expenses without Losing Your Mind

When our divorce decree allowed for splitting expenses for our children in half, I thought it would be easy. All things being equal, with two kids, half means I pay for one kid and he pays for the other, right? So mid-January I received notification that it was time for our biannual payment for “pizza Read More

I Am NOT a Survivor 2

I Am NOT a Survivor

I am not a survivor. Not in the sense that I’m not still among the living.  I just hate that word. Survivor.   Sounds like I was up against something completely insurmountable that most people never make it through. That I’ve been victimized. I am not a victim. The word “survivor” also comes with an implication Read More

#NaBloPoMo I'm a Horrible Mother

I’m a Horrible Mother

I found this in a draft folder, from January of 2015, and thought it might be time to polish it, because it still feels like this sometimes. It’s hard to be a good mother all of the time. But after the divorce, I feel like a horrible mother and like I’m constantly doing it wrong. Read More

3 Things a Resourceful Single Mom Can Do For Extra Cash

3 Things a Resourceful Single Mom Can Do For Extra Cash

Post break-up, there’s a ton of things that you’ll suddenly have full responsibility for, and your cash situation will stretch thinner by the day. If you’re smart, you’ll take that extra time you have while the kids are with your ex to figure out how to make extra money. Sell Your Stuff One thing I Read More

When Life Hands You Asshats...

When Life Hands You Asshats…

Shannon Bradley Colleary, The Woman Formerly Known as Beautiful, has dealt with her share of asshats in her life.  In fact, she could write a book.  (Actually, she is writing a book).  Luckily for Shannon, she’s used those experiences, and moved on – and she’ll be sharing what she’s learned with us in her book. Read More

Cross Your Fingers (and Maybe Your Toes?)

Cross Your Fingers (and Maybe Your Toes?)

After my Easter post and against my better judgement, I agreed to meet the Goblin King for mediation a few days later than the original date that was offered to us.  That day is today.  I got myself a new t-shirt to wear to the meeting. I’m going to ask you all for your collective positive Read More

Down the Road Again

Down the Road Again

I didn’t write about it here…but at Christmas, the Goblin King and I had another wobble.  Although we have a very specific holiday agreement, it’s not in the court order.  And although I strive wherever possible to ensure that we’re both on the same page well in advance of each of the holidays, the Goblin Read More