I refer to the period between my separation and divorce as my “cocooning” period. I hibernated, lost a ton of weight, and didn’t take extremely good care of myself. For the better part of a year, I licked my wounds. But when I emerged from my cocoon, I’d done aContinue Reading
Although I work hard to manage my relationship with my ex – it’s made more difficult when he talks smack about me to anyone who will listen – including my children. I know it’s never going to change – me I’ve developed some strategies to deal with it. See myContinue Reading
I am weary. You know it’s not in my nature to fight. That’s why you thought I was the perfect wife. That’s why you were so surprised when I left. I’ve rarely agreed with you, but with enough pressure, I would generally acquiesce to your demands. I suspect it’s alsoContinue Reading
The pressure builds and builds. I long for release. There are days when the struggle with my ex-husband seems too much. I don’t wish he was dead (exactly), but there are days when I wish he would just disappear from our lives completely. The pragmatic part of me knows thatContinue Reading
Although I often wish he was out of the picture, I would never, ever actually take action to remove my ex from my life. I know how much it would hurt the children. But there are days when I get wistful. Days when he’s stretched me to the limit andContinue Reading
Ugggghhh!!! The Clothes!! Go to Google and type “clothing exchange after divorce”. You’ll find a number of frustrated parents (both men and women) who haven’t been able to constructively solve this little issue. I’ll admit it. I’m one of them. It’s one of those nitpicky things that for way tooContinue Reading
Do my children need therapy? I have to admit, this is something I’ve struggled with. I’ve had extensive therapy since leaving their father – and it’s helped me a great deal. I’ve been able to reflect on why I married their father, why I stayed married for almost ten yearsContinue Reading
The Goblin King (my ex) is escalating again. Our agreement with the mediator was that we’d send one e-mail per exchange, detailing any pertinent information regarding the children. Yesterday, I received three. The third one could have easily been dealt with, but it’s now gotten into the area of bizarre.Continue Reading
When considering divorce, a major deciding factor is sometimes the amount of time that you get to spend with your children. After all, you only have approximately eighteen years together (more or less) – and after divorce, you might suddenly find that you’ve reduced your time by half (depending onContinue Reading
I’ve been struggling to find some inspiration for this month’s #1000Speak topic – Love. I think a part of my problem is that I just can’t separate “compassion” from “love”. The two are inexorably intertwined. When I think about compassion, two people come to mind: The Dalai Lama has spentContinue Reading
