My daughter was about three months old, I’d left my ex when I was six months pregnant, nine months prior. He was at the hospital when she was born and I’d done my best to keep him involved with her, although I was breastfeeding at the time, so it wasContinue Reading
One of the things about becoming single again that can either be a good or a bad thing: you have a lot of time to think. Especially when the kids aren’t home. While there are certainly those who use their time to think about revenge, I spent a lot ofContinue Reading
Step 1: Get rid of the thing that is causing you the most stress—your husband. OK. So it doesn’t exactly work that easily. When you were considering leaving your ex, did you find that the clutter started to get overwhelming? For me, it was like there was something in myContinue Reading
I really try very hard not to be an ogre about things. There are times when the Goblin King really gives me no other choice. But for the most part, I do try to be reasonable and think about the children’s best interests. Our custody arrangement is structured so thatContinue Reading
Divorce is a life changing event. It’s also an opportunity: to learn more about yourself and grow into the person you were meant to be. My divorce and my post-divorce situation have been one of the most difficult trials I’ve had to go through. But I like to feel thatContinue Reading
I just can’t anymore. Really. I just can’t. Flower’s passport expires next week. I’ve been trying for the past month to get the Goblin King to sign-off on the paperwork. Five emails. Five. He didn’t respond to even one. And one morning before the third email, he picked them upContinue Reading
As I was dropping Bae at his school this morning, I stopped in with him at the dry cleaners with a large bag (my annual dress cleaning). The woman behind the counter started to enter my clothes and suggested I could pop Bae to his school (next door) and thenContinue Reading
“When you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.” The narcissist in my life started inventing those stories long before I left. He couldn’t take the blame for anything, so logically, everything was my fault. As much as I like to think that I’m out from underneath the abuse, I stillContinue Reading
Several years back, after many months working on a parenting plan, the Goblin King and I mediated a settlement related to specific holidays and birthdays. For Halloween, Christmas, the children’s birthdays, and our own birthdays, we agreed to specific splits. For Halloween, for instance, we alternate years. For Christmas, weContinue Reading
Have you become a divorce mentor? Not an official one, with a shingle. I mean unintentionally – did you become someone that it seems that everyone who is contemplating/going through a divorce feels the need to speak to? Not the Divorce Whisperer, but sort of like the Divorce Yoda…”The divorceContinue Reading
