Father’s Day Frustration

I really try very hard not to be an ogre about things. There are times when the Goblin King really gives me no other choice. But for the most part, I do try to be reasonable and think about the children’s best interests. Our custody arrangement is structured so that we get the children for Read More

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Since My Divorce: Learning and Growing

Divorce is a life changing event. It’s also an opportunity: to learn more about yourself and grow into the person you were meant to be. My divorce and my post-divorce situation have been one of the most difficult trials I’ve had to go through. But I like to feel that I’ve taken the pieces of Read More

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I Need a Passport to Peace

I just can’t anymore. Really. I just can’t. Flower’s passport expires next week. I’ve been trying for the past month to get the Goblin King to sign-off on the paperwork. Five emails. Five.  He didn’t respond to even one. And one morning before the third email, he picked them up from mine (which is rare Read More

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It Gets Better, It Really Does

As I was dropping Bae at his school this morning, I stopped in with him at the dry cleaners with a large bag (my annual dress cleaning). The woman behind the counter started to enter my clothes and suggested I could pop Bae to his school (next door) and then come back to retrieve my Read More

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Moving Past Narcissistic Abuse and PTSD

“When you leave, he’ll invent stories about you.”  The narcissist in my life started inventing those stories long before I left.  He couldn’t take the blame for anything, so logically, everything was my fault. As much as I like to think that I’m out from underneath the abuse, I still feel it. One Christmas I Read More

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Finite Disappointment and Infinite Hope

Several years back, after many months working on a parenting plan, the Goblin King and I mediated a settlement related to specific holidays and birthdays. For Halloween, Christmas, the children’s birthdays, and our own birthdays, we agreed to specific splits. For Halloween, for instance, we alternate years. For Christmas, we have a set schedule which Read More

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The Divorce Whisperer: Have You Become ‘That’ Girl?

Have you become a divorce mentor?  Not an official one, with a shingle.  I mean unintentionally – did you become someone that it seems that everyone who is contemplating/going through a divorce feels the need to speak to?  Sort of like the Divorce Yoda…”The divorce is strong with this one“.   Or the Divorce Whisperer. Read More

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What I’ve Learned: Follow Your Own Path

Deep breath time. I’ve just packed the kids off to school and back to their father’s for a few days. This blog is supposed to be about helping me to work through my issues and to give you some inspiration to keep positive about life. I strive very hard to do that – not only Read More

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Coparenting: Splitting Expenses without Losing Your Mind

When our divorce decree allowed for splitting expenses for our children in half, I thought it would be easy. All things being equal, with two kids, half means I pay for one kid and he pays for the other, right? [tweetthis hidden_hashtags=”#coparenting”]With 2 kids, half means I pay for 1 and he pays for the Read More

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I Am NOT a Survivor

I am not a survivor. Not in the sense that I’m not still among the living.  I just hate that word. Survivor.   Sounds like I was up against something completely insurmountable that most people never make it through. That I’ve been victimized. I am not a victim. The word “survivor” also comes with an implication Read More

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