Open Letter to the Montessori Teacher Who Asked What To Tell the Other Kids When My Special Needs Kid Gets A “Free Pass”

Open Letter to the Montessori Teacher Who Asked What To Tell the Other Kids When My Special Needs Kid Gets A “Free Pass”

I’m still gob-smacked that you asked the question really. At a meeting with my son’s team, you, his teacher, bluntly asked what you should tell the other children when my son wasn’t required to learn at the same level as them. I simmered and let our resource consultant take the lead. She suggested that the Read More

YouTube isn't Just Cat Videos and Porn

YouTube isn’t Just Cat Videos and Porn

The thing about having a learning disability is that you have trouble being taught the way the rest of the world learns. As we’ve been on our journey with Puck (and it looks like potentially we’ll be going down a different path with Bae too), I’ve started to work on finding ways to make the Read More

What Happens When A Writer's Son Can't Read?

What Happens When A Writer’s Son Can’t Read?

As they pulled my son from the fresh slice in my abdomen, he had a bluish tinge.  He was not crying.  Up to that point, I hadn’t spoken his name aloud: it was a secret that only he and I knew. “Why isn’t Puck crying?” I croaked, touching the nurse’s hand to get her attention Read More

A Guide to Working with the Teacher for Parents of Learning Disabled Kids

A Guide to Working with the Teacher for Parents of Learning Disabled Kids

It’s been just over two years since Puck was diagnosed with Dysgraphia.  It’s been a huge learning curve for me – I’ve had to figure out neuropsychological exams, IEP meetings and resource teachers.  But what I needed the most was someone to tell me that it’s OK.  It’s OK to feel bewildered by the whole Read More

Co-Parenting: A New School Year

Co-Parenting: A New School Year

My son is entering Grade 5 now – and with daycare under our belt, I have about 9 years of co-parenting and dealing with the children’s carers. I wrote a bit about it last year.  You’d think by now that I’d have it figured out – but nope. Each year is completely new – and each Read More

Building Strong Children 1

Building Strong Children

I love those little revelations that come with spending time with family. I’m just back from a week’s holiday in Canada – my mother, her dog, and my niece joined us. My mom reminded me of a number of things that happened when I was a child. And one little comment sent me spinning. She Read More

Testing, Testing...Is This Thing On? Test Anxiety and Learning Disabilities 1

Testing, Testing…Is This Thing On? Test Anxiety and Learning Disabilities

Now in Grade 3, my son has his standardized tests coming up.  He’s been expressing some anxiety about the test for over a year now.  I really can’t blame him.  I’ve gone through some of the test prep books, and some of the answers confused me – and I have my Bachelors Degree. I understand Read More

When Odd Coincidences Pile Up

The Dreaded IEP Review

The long awaited IEP review for Puck happened yesterday.  For those of you who need some review: Diagnosis: Dysgraphia – Struggling Against my Ex AND the System Nature vs. Nurture: How to combat a predisposition to mental illness when co-parenting with a narcissist Now that you’re caught up, the school called about a week ago Read More

Ignorance is not Bliss: How Do You Teach Someone Who Cannot Learn? 1

Ignorance is not Bliss: How Do You Teach Someone Who Cannot Learn?

My eldest son, Puck, has a learning disability. He can learn. And given the right environment, with some accommodation, he actually learns very well. The person who doesn’t learn is his father. He hasn’t learned that negative feedback to a child with learning disabilities just lowers their confidence. He hasn’t learned that he is fairly Read More

How Do You Make Report Card Day Positive for a Child with Learning Disabilities? 1

Learning Disabilities: Making Report Card Day Positive

Living with a learning disability means that report card day has been very difficult in the past. I think my son dreaded the report card almost as much as I did. Because the school insists that you go over the report card with your child. Which I totally understand. But when most of the feedback Read More